One Man, One Woman

My thoughts on the Supreme Court Ruling! 

The Supreme Courts decision does not alter or change what our Heavenly Father wants for His children.  As a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, I believe that a marriage is between one man and one woman.

In 1999, President Gordon B. Hinckley told the members of the Church the following:

"We regard it as not only our right but our duty to oppose those forces which we feel undermine the moral fiber of society. Much of our effort, a very great deal of it, is in association with others whose interests are similar. We have worked with Jewish groups, Catholics, Muslims, Protestants, and those of no particular religious affiliation, in coalitions formed to advocate positions on vital moral issues. ...Latter-day Saints are working as part of a coalition to safeguard traditional marriage from forces in our society which are attempting to redefine that sacred institution. God-sanctioned marriage between a man and a woman has been the basis of civilization for thousands of years. There is no justification to redefine what marriage is. Such is not our right, and those who try will find themselves answerable to God.

Some portray legalization of so-called same-sex marriage as a civil right. This is not a matter of civil rights; it is a matter of morality. Others questions our constitutional right as a church to raise our voice on an issue that is of critical importance to the future of the family.  We believe that defending this sacred institution by working to preserve traditional marriage lies clearly within our religious and constitutional prerogatives. Indeed, we are compelled by our doctrine to speak out.

Nevertheless, and I emphasize this, I wish to say that our opposition to attempt to legalize same-sex marriage should never be interpreted as justification for hatred, intolerance, or abuse of those who profess homosexual tendencies, either individually or as a group. As I said from this pulpit one year ago, out hearts reach out to those who refer to themselves as gays and lesbians. We love and honor them as sons and daughters of God. They are welcome in the Church. It is expected, however, that they follow the same God-given rules of conduct that apply to everyone else, whether single or married.

I commend those of our membership who have voluntarily joined with other like-minded people to defend the sanctity of traditional marriage. .... You are contributing your time and talents in a cause that in some quarters may not be politically correct but which nevertheless lies at the heart of the Lord's eternal plan for His children, just as those of many other churches are doing. This is a united effort."

-President Gordon B. Hinckley
LDS General Conference, October 1999

My beliefs on marriage have not changed or wavered. However, I do believe in kindness, love and mercy for those that have different views.

I personally know people that are gay and lesbian.  Do I agree with their life style? No, I don't! They in turn may not agree with me being a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, or Mormon as many refer to us. However, I choose the path of kindness and love, not hate! I love them as friends and children of God!

I have a friend that shared this analogy with me. She said, "Eggs come in different colors. They all look different on the outside, but when you crack it open...they all look the same inside!"  We are all God's children!

Victory or Victim?

I have come across many people throughout my life.  I've seen some that stand tall surrounding themselves with positive, good and goal oriented people.  They are genuinely happy and their lives reflect that happiness.  Life is not without it's challenges, we are not immune from adversity, illness and other life altering experiences.  Yet, they go through life with a different attitude than others.  It doesn't make those times any easier, but it's how they approach each day!

I've also seen others that constantly blame others for their difficulties in life.  Such as: how they hate their boss, get upset with a utility company when their electricity is turned off or when they get that eviction notice.  Those that surround themselves with positive minded people are successful while those that are victims will always be victims.

I came across a video, as I watched it I found it interesting.  I reflected on those associations that I have at home, work, church and friendships.  Who am I surrounding myself with?  Are they uplifting or always feeling sorry or down trodden? I'm pleased to say that I've been blessed with good people, that have been positive influences in my life.  I consider myself successful! I may not be rich with money, but I'm rich in friendships.  I know I can always call, ask or share my life goals, experiences and feelings and be truly respected.   Again, I may not be a millionaire or a billionaire, yet I feel rich in my relationships. Life is what you reflect and if it's happiness and joy then that's what others see in you.  But if you are always negative, others will not want to associate with you.  No one wants to be around a sour puss!

While going through my cancer journey, I chose to be positive and happy.  I was claiming victory over cancer.  I was not a victim!  I didn't have time for that.  I also felt it was better to have positive energy around me, I didn't have time for negativity.  I've carried that positive attitude/feeling with me ever since and it's been 9 years since my diagnosis.

I choose "Victory"!  What about you?

Pretty In Pink

Today I went to my oncologist for my annual appointment. I find it not stressful seeing him. I think it's because I know I'm cured. 

Dr Bachrach and I went through the formalities. You know, "how are you", "what have you been doing", "what's new". After the pleasantries we got down to business.

He went over my blood work. Nothing to really report. It seems the one thing that keeps popping are my liver enzymes. Well, those numbers have been elevated for over 30 years. It has been discussed that when or if those numbers change then we will address it at that time. As far as cancer is concerned, no sign of it! My CA125 is in the normal range! Can we say hallelujah! 

So, here I am today 9 years cancer free!